(contd.)
What to do if you are getting close:
When you find out that you are having feelings or getting close to a married person, pull back immediately because it’s an ill wind that blows no one any good. Don’t linger and roll into an affair but go to God in prayer. Ask Him for wisdom on how to deal with the problem. Also go for counselling. If you can end the friendship, this might be the best solution. In which case, you stay away from the married man and distance yourself as much as you can. He will soon know you are avoiding him.
But if you can’t avoid seeing him, because you work together probably, there are other methods of staying safe – like getting to know his spouse and children, reduction of discussions or activities that stimulate thoughts, and staying in God’s word. Asking for wisdom from God and obeying what wisdom says is crucial for surviving the situation.
If you are already in an affair:
If you have already fallen into the error of having an affair with a married man, what you need to do is return to God and your senses.
1) Realise that the affair is wrong.
2) Repent of your sins and ask God to forgive you. He is ever ready to forgive.
3) Next, you have to obey God by terminating the relationship with the married person. Obedience is a sign of your repentance. Come out … and be separate, says the Lord. (2Corinthians 6:17 ) Let the man know that the relationship is over because it is wrong. This may be a hard and painful thing to do but it must be done and you’d be glad you did, eventually.
4) Also, as earlier said, set some distance between you and the man immediately because your actions must match your words. Avoid him and stop picking his calls or calling him. If he sends a text message or an email, don’t reply. And if you work at the same place, avoid him as much as possible and stop spending time with him.
By Pastor Taiwo Iredele Odubiyi
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