At work, Beauty continued thinking about her marriage and what else she could do. She decided to call Onyeka and tell her to leave Emeka alone. She took her phone and dialled but it wasn’t picked.
Onyeka must answer it, she must talk to her, Beauty thought and redialled the number, but it wasn’t answered. At about three in the afternoon, she called the number again, and this time, Onyeka answered it.
“Onyeka, leave my husband alone!” Beauty shouted. “Leave him and find your own husband, if you don’t want God to deal with you!”
“Why are you calling my phone? You’ve sent me out of your house, why are you still bothering me? Don’t call my phone again!” Onyeka told her.
“I will call you again and again if you don’t leave my husband!”
“Let this be the first and the last time you will call me about Emeka -”
“Oh, so it’s Emeka now, not Uncle -”
“Yes, I call him Emeka or Emmy and there’s nothing you can do about it.” Onyeka said and ended the call.
Beauty almost couldn’t believe that Onyeka said those things and hung up on her. Angry, she phoned Mrs. Craig and told her what happened.
“I’ve just started with her!” Beauty declared.
“I know how you feel, I know what you’re going through but the truth is that the girl is not your problem.” Mrs. Craig said.
“What do you mean?”
“She’s not the problem. The problem is your husband, not the girl. They are still communicating because your husband wants it and allows it. Calling the girl to warn her is a waste of time. If your husband tells her to stop calling him, there’s nothing she can do. They are still in touch because your husband wants it.”
As understanding dawned on Beauty, she took a deep breath and shook her head sadly.
(Excerpts from the novel – Marriage on Fire)
And so, what should a wife in this situation do?
We must not underestimate the place and power of prayer. This reminds me of the words of a hymn – oh what peace we often forfeit, oh what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry, everything to God in prayer.
Instead of contacting his mistress to fight, the wife should go before God in prayer. Contacting her to warn her off or call her names is not the solution, it’s not the way to stop the ungodly affair and save your marriage.
Well, it may work in some cases for some people, but it won’t work for many people. It could do more harm than good, leading to problems. Contacting her to warn her or fight her does not mean that he will immediately terminate the relationship, leave her and cleave to you.
Silence is also not the solution. Satan is the one behind the affair and he is not a gentleman. The Bible admonishes us to resist the devil and he will flee. You must take steps to resist satan and put a stop to his works in your home.
1)What you should do is pray. Ask God for help and wisdom, and let Him fight for you.
2) You will also need to talk to your husband about the affair. Try to find out what went wrong, why he went into the affair, and how you can work on your marriage to save it.
3) If necessary, involve a third party, probably your pastor or a counselor.
You will need to read our novels and other books, they will do you a world of good.
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